What are some signs that a therapist may have poor boundaries with their clients?
Last Updated: 20.06.2025 12:35
Disclosing feelings, fantasies, and experiences to the client in ways not related to the work the client is engaged in.
These items can happen fleetingly, briefly, in any therapy, but if they’re frequent, it’s definitely time for the therapist to get some good, solid supervision/consultation.
Session-expressed curiosities about client details not relevant to the therapy.
Failing to mention the client in supervision/consultation, out of fear the supervisor/consultant will advise return to ordinary healthy boundaries.
Obsessing about clients outside of work hours.
Off the top of my ancient head:
What baseball stories from the early days of the sport seem too bizarre to be true?
Struggling with fantasies of deeper connections with clients, whether sexual or parental or other intense or intimate relationships beyond psychotherapy.
Eager anticipation (or anxious anticipation) of the next session in ways that distract.
Routinely going over the time limit with certain patients, compromising the time for the next client.
Are rich people harder workers than poor people as a whole?
Sense of competition with persons who are important in the client’s life.
Serious disappointment when the client cancels a session.
General Introduction to Boundaries from Panahi Counseling:
Is heroin really as good as people say it is?
Frequent phoning or texting of clients to “check up on them and make sure they’re OK.”